True Friends

Friends come and go, but only true friends stays...

True friends are those who are willing to go through ups and downs, laughter and tears.

No matter how rough the road can be.. only TRUE FRIENDS will willingly stand beside you supporting you and encouraging you not to give up.

Only True Friends will teach you the rights from wrong.

Trust...is essential to true friendship. but to trust a person.. he/she must gain your trust.. in the world today, you can't trust a person easily. We all need someone with whom we can share our lives, thoughts, feelings, and frustrations. We need to be able to share our deepest secrets with someone, without worrying that those secrets will end up being spread the next day! Failing to be trustworthy with those intimate secrets can destroy a friendship in a hurry. Faithfulness and loyalty are key to true friendship. Without them, we often feel betrayed, left out, and lonely. In true friendship, there is no backbiting, no negative thoughts, no turning away.

True friends encourage one another and forgive one another where there has been an offense. Genuine friendship supports during times of struggle. In true friendship, unconditional love develops. We love our friends no matter what and we always want the best for our friends.

Real friendship looks at the heart, not just the "packaging." Genuine friendship loves for love's sake, not just for what it can get in return. True friendship is both challenging and exciting. It risks, it overlooks faults, and it loves unconditionally, but it also involves being truthful, even though it may hurt.

Friends come and go, and if they go.. all you can do is just appreciate the memories they've given you, may it be good or bad. You're not going to lose anything.. No! you're still you! and you are going to meet more new people in life, perhaps better ones.. I believe, everything happens for a reason.

Based on experience

Powerful Quotes of Mother Teresa.

"Keep the joy of loving God in your heart and share this joy with all you meet especially your family. Be holy – let us pray."

"Yesterday is gone.

Tomorrow has not yet come.

We have only today.

Let us begin."

When a poor person dies of hunger,

it has not happened because God did not take care of him or her.

It has happened because neither you nor I wanted to give that person what he or she needed

If we really want to love we must learn how to forgive.

Before you speak,

it is necessary for you to listen,

for God speaks in the silence of the heart.

Give yourself fully to God.

He will use you to accomplish great things on the condition that you believe much more in His love than in your own weakness.

Speak tenderly to them.

Let there be kindness in your face, in your eyes, in your smile, in the warmth of your greeting. Always have a cheerful smile.

Don't only give your care, but give your heart as well

The more you have, the more you are occupied, the less you give. But the less you have the more free you are. Poverty for us is a freedom. It is not mortification, a penance. It is joyful freedom. There is no television here, no this, no that. But we are perfectly happy

Little things are indeed little, but to be faithful in little things is a great thing.

Karma

In the teaching of Buddhisms, the law of karma, says only this

"For every event that occurs

there will follow another event whose existence was caused by the first,

and this second event will be pleasant or unpleasant

according as its cause was skillful or unskillful."

A skillful event is one that is not accompanied by craving, resistance or delusions ;

An unskillful event is one that is accompanied by any one of those things.

Events are not skillful in themselves, but are so called only in virtue of the mental events that occur with them.

The law of Karma teaches that responsibility for unskillful actions is born by the person who commits them.

Being fully ethical is said to be impossible for those who make a distinction between self and other and show preference for the perceived self over the perceived other, for such perceptions inhibit being fully responsive.

Being fully ethical is possible only for those who realize that all persons are empty, that is, devoid of personhood.

The Power Of Mind

Today in Behavourial Science class we were talking about Stress Management. and we also discussed on how to handle a situation and how our thoughts affect our actions.

Situation 1:

Husband's a business man and wife's a housewife. Husband comes home every afternoon with lunch served on the dining table. but there was one day, when husband comes home and there were no food on the table.

Reaction 1 : reacted furiously and thinking to himself negatively 'I'm bloody hungry! where's my lunch?! my wife is supposed to cook for me! what was she doing the whole time? catching a TV series?? WTF'

Reaction 2 : calm and wondering ' hmmm... no lunch? maybe she's not feeling well. Very well then, maybe i'll take the whole family for lunch at the nearby Chinese restaurant'

You see, if the husband would reacts on 'Reaction 1' unnecessary stress and anger sets in and take control of your actions. husband might start an arguement with wife.
and if the husband reacts on 'Reaction 2' there's totally no anger in him... and the whole family happily goes out for lunch.

Do you see the difference it makes just by how you think? No? here's another one

Situation 2:

Arun and Shangari are schoolmates since high school days, they know each other very well. Years later Arun became an Engineer and Shangari had kidney failures and won't be able to have her own child. but still Arun asked Shangari for her hand in marriage. Arun even sent Shangari all the way to the States to get a kidney transplant. But after not too long, Shangari left Arun for another man... After all that Arun have done, Shangari left him for another man

Reaction 1: Arun says to himself ' No!!! this shouldn't be happening to me! I've treated her so well! She's my life! I can't live without her!' and he kills himself

Reaction 2: Arun says to himself 'Oh well, guess she's not the one for me then. don't worry Arun. there's still so many doors left to be open. i'm sure i'll finally find the right one for me one day.. Yes, it will be painful for some time now. but i'll get over it eventually, just the matter of time. no worries.' and he moved on.
and today, Arun found another so-much-more beautiful wife and they have 3 beautiful children.

Wow.. Just by the thoughts in your head can cause so much. so I hope, after reading this, think more rationally, and get all negative thoughts away. Bring in the positives. Don't rush in to things, try to understand them better first. Be wise.
Yes, in life, there will be stress. Life is not a bed of roses. like I stated in my last few post 'it is the obstacles that we face in life helps build a stronger us'

When Two Hearts United As One...

Marriage...

There is another more philosophical defination of marriage

A lifetime commitment to constantly provide emotional intimacy to your spouse, thereby uncovering your true self and, ultimately, your unique purpose for being created.

Each clause of this definition reveals the foundation of a successful marriage

A lifetime commitment:
Marriage is meant to last forever. You are committed for the long haul; therefore figure out whatever you need to make it work. When you argue, are frustrated, tired or bored, say to each other: "We are in this together, forever. Let us get through this, because on the other side lies the happiness we both want, the happiness a successful marriage provides."

To constantly:
Marriage takes constant work. A great marriage does not just passively unfold after marrying your soul-mate. Instead, the commitment of marriage is a lifetime of proactive "everydays:"

Everyday I will recommit myself to this person.

Everyday I will make my spouse happy.

Everyday I will communicate with my spouse.

Everyday I will make my spouse feel special.

Everyday I will make my spouse feel that I am the most blessed person in the world to be married to him/her.

Everyday I will unload his/her burden.

Everyday…

And on 21st November 2009, Two hearts united as one. Congratulations to Edwin Phang and Pearly Ng. It was a wonderful wedding. Happy for both of you, God bless...

The Pencil Parable

One day, the pencil maker spoke to the pencil saying...

'There are five things I need you to know before I send you out into the world, Always remember them and you will become the best pencil you can be'

1. You will be able to do many things, but only if you allow yourself to be held in someone's hand

2. sharpening - You will experience painful sharpening from time to time, but this is required if you are to become a better pencil

3. eraser at tip of pencil - You have the ability to correct any mistakes you might make

4. the lead - The most important part of you will always be what's inside

5. No matter what the condition is, you must continue to write. You must always leave a clear, legible mark no matter how difficult the situation.

The pencil understands, promising to remember and went into the box fully understanding it's maker's purpose.

Now replacing the place of the pencil with you ;

always remember them and never forget and you will become the best person you can be

Everyone is like a pencil, created by the maker for a unique and special purpose. By understanding and remembering, let us proceed with our life on this earth having a meaningful purpose in our heart and a relationship with God daily.

You Are Made To Do Great Things!

Emotions

Why are you sad when you can be happy?

Why do you cry when you can smile?

Why do you worry when you can be carefree?

Why do you get stressed out when you can relax?

Why all these negative emotions?

God gave us the ability to be happy, so make use of it.

In life, when you feel like breaking down or giving up...

Remember !!

We only learn from our mistakes, no matter how stupid our mistakes are, Accept it, deal with it. It is all the obstacles that we face in life, that helps build a stronger us.

Everything happens for a reason. so be strong, stand strong, and face the world.

When you're in a tough situation, instead of asking God 'oh, why me?' ,Thank God!

When you're looking for answers, Look within yourself, try speaking to Him and listen intently. You will be surprised what He tells only you.

Are you still sad? angry? frustrated? stressed out? take a deep deep breath in, and exhale out hard... smile... don't frown... it uses more facial muscle to frown than Smile.. so smile and thank God for everyday.

I dedicate this song to everyone out there, listen, and let your body move to the music. Enjoy, and smile,

we only live once :)