The Power Of Mind

Today in Behavourial Science class we were talking about Stress Management. and we also discussed on how to handle a situation and how our thoughts affect our actions.

Situation 1:

Husband's a business man and wife's a housewife. Husband comes home every afternoon with lunch served on the dining table. but there was one day, when husband comes home and there were no food on the table.

Reaction 1 : reacted furiously and thinking to himself negatively 'I'm bloody hungry! where's my lunch?! my wife is supposed to cook for me! what was she doing the whole time? catching a TV series?? WTF'

Reaction 2 : calm and wondering ' hmmm... no lunch? maybe she's not feeling well. Very well then, maybe i'll take the whole family for lunch at the nearby Chinese restaurant'

You see, if the husband would reacts on 'Reaction 1' unnecessary stress and anger sets in and take control of your actions. husband might start an arguement with wife.
and if the husband reacts on 'Reaction 2' there's totally no anger in him... and the whole family happily goes out for lunch.

Do you see the difference it makes just by how you think? No? here's another one

Situation 2:

Arun and Shangari are schoolmates since high school days, they know each other very well. Years later Arun became an Engineer and Shangari had kidney failures and won't be able to have her own child. but still Arun asked Shangari for her hand in marriage. Arun even sent Shangari all the way to the States to get a kidney transplant. But after not too long, Shangari left Arun for another man... After all that Arun have done, Shangari left him for another man

Reaction 1: Arun says to himself ' No!!! this shouldn't be happening to me! I've treated her so well! She's my life! I can't live without her!' and he kills himself

Reaction 2: Arun says to himself 'Oh well, guess she's not the one for me then. don't worry Arun. there's still so many doors left to be open. i'm sure i'll finally find the right one for me one day.. Yes, it will be painful for some time now. but i'll get over it eventually, just the matter of time. no worries.' and he moved on.
and today, Arun found another so-much-more beautiful wife and they have 3 beautiful children.

Wow.. Just by the thoughts in your head can cause so much. so I hope, after reading this, think more rationally, and get all negative thoughts away. Bring in the positives. Don't rush in to things, try to understand them better first. Be wise.
Yes, in life, there will be stress. Life is not a bed of roses. like I stated in my last few post 'it is the obstacles that we face in life helps build a stronger us'

When Two Hearts United As One...

Marriage...

There is another more philosophical defination of marriage

A lifetime commitment to constantly provide emotional intimacy to your spouse, thereby uncovering your true self and, ultimately, your unique purpose for being created.

Each clause of this definition reveals the foundation of a successful marriage

A lifetime commitment:
Marriage is meant to last forever. You are committed for the long haul; therefore figure out whatever you need to make it work. When you argue, are frustrated, tired or bored, say to each other: "We are in this together, forever. Let us get through this, because on the other side lies the happiness we both want, the happiness a successful marriage provides."

To constantly:
Marriage takes constant work. A great marriage does not just passively unfold after marrying your soul-mate. Instead, the commitment of marriage is a lifetime of proactive "everydays:"

Everyday I will recommit myself to this person.

Everyday I will make my spouse happy.

Everyday I will communicate with my spouse.

Everyday I will make my spouse feel special.

Everyday I will make my spouse feel that I am the most blessed person in the world to be married to him/her.

Everyday I will unload his/her burden.

Everyday…

And on 21st November 2009, Two hearts united as one. Congratulations to Edwin Phang and Pearly Ng. It was a wonderful wedding. Happy for both of you, God bless...

The Pencil Parable

One day, the pencil maker spoke to the pencil saying...

'There are five things I need you to know before I send you out into the world, Always remember them and you will become the best pencil you can be'

1. You will be able to do many things, but only if you allow yourself to be held in someone's hand

2. sharpening - You will experience painful sharpening from time to time, but this is required if you are to become a better pencil

3. eraser at tip of pencil - You have the ability to correct any mistakes you might make

4. the lead - The most important part of you will always be what's inside

5. No matter what the condition is, you must continue to write. You must always leave a clear, legible mark no matter how difficult the situation.

The pencil understands, promising to remember and went into the box fully understanding it's maker's purpose.

Now replacing the place of the pencil with you ;

always remember them and never forget and you will become the best person you can be

Everyone is like a pencil, created by the maker for a unique and special purpose. By understanding and remembering, let us proceed with our life on this earth having a meaningful purpose in our heart and a relationship with God daily.

You Are Made To Do Great Things!

Emotions

Why are you sad when you can be happy?

Why do you cry when you can smile?

Why do you worry when you can be carefree?

Why do you get stressed out when you can relax?

Why all these negative emotions?

God gave us the ability to be happy, so make use of it.

In life, when you feel like breaking down or giving up...

Remember !!

We only learn from our mistakes, no matter how stupid our mistakes are, Accept it, deal with it. It is all the obstacles that we face in life, that helps build a stronger us.

Everything happens for a reason. so be strong, stand strong, and face the world.

When you're in a tough situation, instead of asking God 'oh, why me?' ,Thank God!

When you're looking for answers, Look within yourself, try speaking to Him and listen intently. You will be surprised what He tells only you.

Are you still sad? angry? frustrated? stressed out? take a deep deep breath in, and exhale out hard... smile... don't frown... it uses more facial muscle to frown than Smile.. so smile and thank God for everyday.

I dedicate this song to everyone out there, listen, and let your body move to the music. Enjoy, and smile,

we only live once :)